Cinderella

This seems to be a bit of a topic in several different circles I am in at the moment.

Relationships, working or not!

We grow up with many a story about princesses falling in love and living happily ever after.  I loved it.  I wanted happily ever after, with Prince Charming of course.  I mean if it could happen in Pretty Woman then surely it could happen to me?!

To be truthful, I am not quite sure what I believe anymore.  I used to think that love was butterflies in my stomach.  Wanting to do anything for and with the other person.  My heart racing, my eyes sparkling and me glowing.

Then, I decided that was a load of crap!

Now, I just don't know.

Before you think I am having marriage problems, I am not.  All is good here at the moment.

But I don't know that there is just 1 person who is "the one".  Do you have a soul mate?

I have a friend who after many years is still madly in love, and it shows.  Not just on her face but on her husbands face too.  Each time they look at each other, it is amazing and beautiful. 

(I must say we tend to tease them about it but the reality is, they are inspirational) 

My psychologist says love like that is rare.  Most people are lucky to find comfortable, contentment.  (surprised me)

A friend has just broken up with his partner, a major factor he says were difference over her children.  Its tough for someone to come in and become a step mother or father.  Discipline seems to be a major issue here, its so easy to think "don't say that to my child" or who do you think you are you are not their Mother/Father.  Difficult situation, for all involved.

I have another friend who I have been encouraging to go out on a date with someone - ANYONE! lol

I have to say I have thought that she was being to picky (after all no one is perfect).  But now I am not so sure.  She says she wants more than what is on offer now.  I have been rolling my eyes at her, but now I realise that she should wait for more and then some.  You can not be too picky.

I know this has been a little disjointed.  I guess I am trying to look at different scenarios that are going on now and make some sense out of it all.

I think the bottom line is that, for some, they do find Prince Charming.  If that is you, you are blessed.

Some of us need to realise that the grass is not always greener on the other side. 

There is more to life than having a partner.  Being single doesn't have to be the end of the world.

Life is short.  Don't settle.  Fight for what you want out of life, out of a partner.  As much as we would like everything to be easy and uncomplicated, it isn't.  The reality is, life is hard.  You don't need a partner to make it harder.  Once you have children with someone they are forever a part of your life.

As much as you want and should be with someone for who they are not what they are, a balance is essential.  If he can't hold down a job no matter how passionate you are, that passion won't pay the bills.  They don't have to be rich but a guy with a good work ethic is important, one with ambition.

Wow I could go on forever with my check list.....

So are things any more clear?  Sure they are, as clear as mud!!

Relationships of all kinds are difficult.  I think the most complicated thing in this life is Love!

I would really like to hear thoughts and stories.....  share the love!